Updated: Jul 12
One of my favorite movies is While You Were Sleeping. A sappy romantic comedy, the main character, Lucy, is in love with a man whom she has watched from a far. I can relate. Over the years, I have had countless crushes on guys – who either didn’t know I existed or was already a friend but had no idea I was absolutely smitten with him!
At one point in the movie, Lucy is talking to her “sleeping” Prince Charming and says something to the effect “if you really knew me, I just know you would choose me!” I’ve watched the movie dozens of times and that line will cause crocodile tears to roll down my face. Every. Single. Time.
I’ve had that very thought countless times. Not just with a guy I had a secret crush on, but in scenarios at school, work and church.
If only “they” really knew me…
I’d be noticed.
I’d be sought out by the “who’s who” to be a part of their social group.
I’d be included in their exciting activities and conversations.
I’d be accepted and approved.
I’d be valuable and worthy.
I’d be special.
Most of all, I’d be chosen.
As I have grown older, and more importantly, grown in my faith, I have learned that all my “be” longings can only be fulfilled by my Lord and Savior. The Lord knows my deepest longings and desires. His Word tells me…
He knows me intimately. (Psalm 139)
He notices me. (Genesis 16:13)
He sought me out. (Luke 19:10)
He includes me in His work and purpose. (Matthew 5:14-16)
He accepts me and approves me. (Ephesians 1:5-6)
He affirms my value and worth. (Proverbs 31:10; Zechariah 2:8)
He confirms I am special. (Ephesians 2:10)
Most of all, He chose me. (1 Peter 2:9)
While I haven’t had a crush in a decade or longer, I confess I still sometimes struggle with feeling overlooked and excluded. Thankfully, I am much quicker to recognize the whispers of the evil one and take the destructive thoughts captive (2 Corinthians 10:5).
And just like Lucy - spoiler alert - I discovered what I thought I wanted wasn’t what I really wanted – or needed - after all. The love of Prince Charming pales in comparison to the love of the King of Kings.
I just needed a be-attitude perspective adjustment.