Updated: Aug 4, 2019
I am a fix-it girl. That isn’t always a good thing, especially when it is not my place to fix it.
Several times over the years, I’ve tried to help a friend fix an ongoing situation. However, each time I helped out, the fix didn’t last very long. Since there was no change in behavior, the situation progressively got worse. A couple of months ago, things spiraled downward and my friend was…well, in a pickle.
As much as I wanted to jump in and take care of things, for the first time, I sensed I needed to keep my hands off and my mouth shut. This was a consequence. It was not my problem to fix. It was not my responsibility to make things easier.
And because I care so deeply, I have been absolutely miserable.
I have quietly carried the burden emotionally.
I’ve been fearful.
I’ve been angry.
I have prayed without ceasing.
I’ve searched the Word for answers, understanding, and relief.
I’ve wrestled with the Lord; if He would have just let me fix it to start off with, it would have surely been resolved by now. Yet the truth is, if I had meddled, if I had ignored the Still Small Voice, not only would I have probably made the situation worse, my friend would not see the Lord working this out for her good.
I now realize…
Not all battles are mine to fight.
Not all issues are mine to fix.
It’s not my responsibility to change someone’s behavior.
Every action – or failure to act - has a consequence.
Tough love is tough.
Romans 8:28 And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.